The 2 day training we had at Gladney Center for Adoption broke us and rebuilt us all over again. We learned so much! We thought we had a pretty good handle on parenting and that our kids were growing up to be well adjusted individuals. The training wasn't just a check mark on a long list, it was something I wish I had 13 years ago!
We learned about sensory issues, which was eye opening. It's amazing to understand just very slightly what some kids with sensory issues will go through. My head was throbbing after the lesson! A child with sensory issues can face challenges when dealing with things we think nothing of.
We learned how to nourish our child properly with food, play, and rest every two hours. Giving them the right combination of foods to eat to support brain growth and activity is super important! Giving them a break to play in a way that makes them sweat, and then allowing them to rest and recharge will give them the regulation they need.
We learned that kiddos need predictability and consistency to help them ease into different activities. How transitions can be tough, and how posting schedules and house rules can help them understand what to expect and what will happen. It's all about helping them feel safe.
Among all the other rich education, there was a section on attachment and parenting styles that wrecked us. We learned that we have been parenting our kids using avoidant/dissmissive and ambivalent/entangled styles. Figuring this out is the first step, but they also built us back up with tools to help us earn a secure/free attachment and parenting style.
We have been using these great tools with our kids now and I feel like we've seen a difference not only in them, but in ourselves. It helps direct us to the present with our kids and keeps us in a playfulness with them. When there's an issue that needs correction, we know how to address it in a way that helps them feel safe and loved, but also gets the point across.
I'm excited to continue to learn these tools, so that when "Luke" comes, we'll be able to help him grow into a secure young man. We just want to love him and help him feel safe!
We would recommend this Pathways training to everyone! Here's some books that they drew from in case you are interested in taking a look:
The Connected Child by Karyn B. Purvis
http://www.amazon.com/Connected-Child-healing-adoptive-family/dp/0071475001/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879895&sr=8-1&keywords=the+connected+child
Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson
http://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Soul-Connections-Neuroscience-Relationships/dp/141433415X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879926&sr=8-1&keywords=anatomy+of+the+soul
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Inside-10th-Anniversary-Self-Understanding/dp/039916510X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879968&sr=8-1&keywords=parenting+from+the+inside+out
The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz
http://www.amazon.com/Out---Sync-Child-Carol-Kranowitz/dp/0399531653/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428880014&sr=8-1&keywords=the+out+of+sync+child
We learned about sensory issues, which was eye opening. It's amazing to understand just very slightly what some kids with sensory issues will go through. My head was throbbing after the lesson! A child with sensory issues can face challenges when dealing with things we think nothing of.
We learned how to nourish our child properly with food, play, and rest every two hours. Giving them the right combination of foods to eat to support brain growth and activity is super important! Giving them a break to play in a way that makes them sweat, and then allowing them to rest and recharge will give them the regulation they need.
We learned that kiddos need predictability and consistency to help them ease into different activities. How transitions can be tough, and how posting schedules and house rules can help them understand what to expect and what will happen. It's all about helping them feel safe.
Among all the other rich education, there was a section on attachment and parenting styles that wrecked us. We learned that we have been parenting our kids using avoidant/dissmissive and ambivalent/entangled styles. Figuring this out is the first step, but they also built us back up with tools to help us earn a secure/free attachment and parenting style.
We have been using these great tools with our kids now and I feel like we've seen a difference not only in them, but in ourselves. It helps direct us to the present with our kids and keeps us in a playfulness with them. When there's an issue that needs correction, we know how to address it in a way that helps them feel safe and loved, but also gets the point across.
I'm excited to continue to learn these tools, so that when "Luke" comes, we'll be able to help him grow into a secure young man. We just want to love him and help him feel safe!
We would recommend this Pathways training to everyone! Here's some books that they drew from in case you are interested in taking a look:
The Connected Child by Karyn B. Purvis
http://www.amazon.com/Connected-Child-healing-adoptive-family/dp/0071475001/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879895&sr=8-1&keywords=the+connected+child
Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson
http://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Soul-Connections-Neuroscience-Relationships/dp/141433415X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879926&sr=8-1&keywords=anatomy+of+the+soul
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Inside-10th-Anniversary-Self-Understanding/dp/039916510X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428879968&sr=8-1&keywords=parenting+from+the+inside+out
The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz
http://www.amazon.com/Out---Sync-Child-Carol-Kranowitz/dp/0399531653/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428880014&sr=8-1&keywords=the+out+of+sync+child
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